Galba Francis Adeyinka Bright, Human Resource Consultant and Author, died at his office on March 31 of natural causes, leaving his wife Sandra, numerous family members, friends, associates, readers and fans.
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If a Mensa member shared his top tip for helping you make the most of your IQ, would you want to know more?
Tune your EQ reader, Ray Hobby’s revelation is unusual. It’s sure to get you thinking. He also explains exactly what an emotional intelligence coach CAN’T do for you. Finally, Ray warns why you must approach the results of Emotional Intelligence assessments carefully.
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Ray’s Top Tip
“Perhaps the only tip I would risk offering to anyone is embodied in all the foregoing – as an intrinsic component in ALL that I now do professionally.”
Please – Please – THINK about your situation – no one can do that for you, not even the ‘best’ coach […whoever and whatever s/he is]. “
” A ‘good’ coach will NOT provide all your answers to all of your problems, but s/he may ask [some of] the right questions to enable you to find ‘a route’ so that you find your own answers.”
“With integrity you will then be able to find some of the other questions to facilitate the route so you can find more “about your [real] self.”
“Interestingly, as I have already said, it is important to recognise that IQ levels are not the full story …BUT the use of the word ‘integrity’ is so very important.”
“IQ tests – particularly the best [Cattell and Wechsler, for instance] - are so well structured [after some 80 years or so of development] that they are not easy to fool or fiddle. The IQ value is usually pretty accurate and taken from the content – you either know a synonym or an antonym …or you don’t - or follow a syllogistic link …or you can’t. So, an IQ number ‘suggests’ a level of intellectual intelligence.”
“EQ tests, however, can, to a certain extent, be fooled …unless they have a very strong 360 contribution from colleagues and close associates. (Ray’s argument is that a more reliable assessment includes the observations of other people, rather than relying on the information that the person being assessedprovides) . If you say that you help other people, for instance, when in reality you don’t care at all, then you will have an EQ rating that is not deserved, earned or realistic. “
“In consequence no genuine, personal development can take place. The questions examine your self knowledge and social relationships in various categories.”
Ray’s Provocative Closing Statement
“An EQ number, as an end result, is therefore meaningless, since it is the further consideration of the components that provide the basis for personal development and improvement.”
So Ray says that if you want to make the most of your IQ, you must THINK.
Could Ray’s tip help you make the most of your IQ?
How do feel about what Ray says about emotional intelligence coaching and assessment?
Ray believes that a good coach can help you by asking the right emotional intelligence questions.
Read my 13 Emotional Intelligence Questions Every Leader Should Ask guest post 4 part series for Steve Roesler’s All Things Workplace Blog.
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This is the sixth article in the interview series between Ray Hobby and myself. In the next article, Ray explains why Emotional Intelligence is important.
Download the entire 5 question interview series with Ray Hobby in pdf format.
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Is there something that you’re thankful right now? Here 21 Timeless Thoughts About Thankfulness. Which one triggers the most positive emotions in you?
“1. Prosperity depends more on wanting what you have than having what you want.”
Geoffrey F. Albert
“2. What sunshine is to flowers, smiles are to humanity. These are but trifles, to be sure; but, scattered along life’s pathway, the good they do is inconceivable.”
Joaseph Addison
“3. Cherish your visions; cherish your ideals; cherish the music that stirs in your heart, the beauty that forms in your mind, the loveliness that drapes your purest thoughts, for out of them will grow delightful conditions, all heavenly environment; of these if you but remain true to them, your world will at last be built.”
James Allen
“4. There is a serious defect in the thinking of someone who wants — more than anything else — to become rich. As long as they don’t have the money, it’ll seem like a worthwhile goal. Once they do, they’ll understand how important other things are — and have always been.”
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Anita Loos
“5. I would rather be able to appreciate things I can not have than to have things I am not able to appreciate.”
Elbert Hubbard
“6. If you wish your merit to be known, acknowledge that of other people.”
Oriental Proverb
“7. Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”
Marcel Proust
“8. Nothing is more effective than sincere, accurate praise, and nothing is more lame than a cookie-cutter compliment.”
Bill Walsh
“9. The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you.”
John E. Southard
“10. As each day comes to us refreshed and anew, so does my gratitude renew itself daily. The breaking of the sun over the horizon is my grateful heart dawning upon a blessed world.”
Adabella Radici
“11. I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought; and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.”
G.K. Chesterton
“12. The unthankful heart… discovers no mercies; but let the thankful heart sweep through the day and, as the magnet finds the iron, so it will find, in every hour, some heavenly blessings!”
Henry Ward Beecher
“13. Praise the bridge that carried you over.”
George Colman
“14. If you count all your assets, you always show a profit.”
Robert Quillen
“15. We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures”
Thornton Wilder
“16. If you want to turn your life around, try thankfulness. It will change your life mightily.”
Gerald Good
” 17. Who does not thank for little will not thank for much.”
Estonian Proverb
” 18. The hardest arithmetic to master is that which enables us to count our blessings.”
Eric Hoffer
” 19. Gratitude is the fairest blossom which springs from the soul.”
Henry Ward Beecher
“20. When our perils are past, shall our gratitude sleep?”
George Canning
“21. When eating bamboo sprouts, remember the man who planted them”
Chinese Proverb
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In this series, Mensa member and Tune up your EQ reader, Ray Hobby explains why, despite having a high IQ, he is enthusiastic about emotional intelligence. In the third article in this 7 part series, Ray reveals the pros and cons of having a high IQ.
Pro’s –
” • recognising – and responsibly using - the assets mentioned in 2. above, as significant contributors to enable you to do something worthwhile.• a reasonable expectation to be able cope with problems and difficulties that others may give up on.
• a confidence to genuinely help others …as they require to be helped.
• to inform and encourage others - as you require - to get things done.”
Con’s –
“• other people can have an impossible, even an unreasonably high expectation of your abilities …if they know of your high IQ.
• there may be a tendency to be arrogant and impatient with others who do not share a level or a speed of intellectual understanding.”
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Creative Commons Attribution License“For these reasons – both as Pro’s and of Con’s – it is often better simply to say nothing about your IQ test results or, indeed, about any of your inert abilities and attributes.”
“Consider the poor individual who says they can ‘do the splits’, for instance. Nobody believes them until they are actually seen ‘doing the splits’. “
“Now consider the dilemma of someone with a high IQ. Also remember especially – no one loves a smart-a***e and everyone takes great delight when that same person makes a mistake.”
“Enjoy the assets they afford and have real friends as associates…even those who ask you to write an article about - ‘Me and My High IQ’.”
Thanks, Ray. In the next article, Ray shares his tips for making the most of your IQ.
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