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Make Emotional Confrontations Fun

February 5th, 2008 by Galba Bright

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How are you’re New Year Resolutions going? You’re committed to making 2008 your best year ever. Yet you know that people will try to provoke you. Now’s the time to act with initative Step back in time and take a quick lesson in emotional management from the French novelist, Alexandre Dumas.

Back in the 1800s, Dumas’ quarrel with a rising young politician became so intense that they agreed to settle it with a duel. Both men were superb marksmen, so they decided to draw lots. The loser would shoot himself.

Dumas lost.

Pistol in hand, he slowly withdrew in silent dignity to the drawing room. He bade his friends a solemn “good bye” and closed the door behind him. The rest of the company waited in gloomy suspense for the sound of the shot that would end Dumas’ life.

At last, the pistol shot rang out. The crowd rushed to the door. They tore it open. Amazingly, out strode Dumas, smoking revolver in hand. He said:

“Gentlemen, a most regrettable thing has happened……. I missed.”

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3 Responses to “Make Emotional Confrontations Fun”

  1. The Details Are In For the Magazine Headline Remix | Copyblogger Says:
    February 18th, 2008 at 12:17 pm

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  2. Steve Olson Says:
    February 19th, 2008 at 9:16 am

    I hate emotional confrontations. I don’t know about duels. But how about just a fight with your girlfriend or your parents.

    You know what is really bad? When you’re at someone else’s house and they start fighting. That used to happen to me when I was a kid at a sleep over. The parents would start throwing stuff at each other. Maybe that’s when I started to hate emotional confrontation.

    Anyway, I laughed. It’s good Dumas missed.

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  3. Galba Bright Says:
    February 20th, 2008 at 10:10 am

    Hello Steve:

    Thanks for stopping by. I get a bit of the sense of pain that emotional confrontations can bring, especially those that occur outside of our control. EQ can help a person to acknowledge the pain of past events and find a way to put them in perspective. A book (it’s not specifically about EQ) that I contine to find helpful is Louise Hay’s “You Can Heal Your Life.” My 7 Laws of Emotional Intelligence aims to help people in this way and the positive psychology movement has valuable insights about healing.

    Dumas was smart enough to realise that his emotional confrontation didn’t have to end in death. Our challenge is to balance those points in life where we need to challenge or confront others and those that we can allow to pass us by.

    Thanks also for developing that big list of intelligence resources at your blog.

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