Tune up your EQ

” My high IQ is an asset, but I have found that on its own it can be a liability. It needs the balance of EQ.”

Ray Hobby, Tune up your EQ reader and contributor.

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3 Curious IQ/EQ Questions

1. How does MENSA member and former Senior Deputy Headmaster, Ray Hobby make the most of his high IQ?

2. What inspired him to develop his emotional intelligence?

3. Why does he now earn his living helping others to apply emotional intelligence principles to their lives?

5 questions for Ray Hobby

My online friend and collaborator, Ray Hobby has generously agreed to share his personal experience with us. He are the 5 questions that I asked him:

1. How did you discover that you possess a High IQ?
2. What are the 3 most significant ways that having a high IQ has affected your life?
3. What are the pros and cons of having a high IQ?
4. What tips would you give to someone to help them make the most of their IQ?
5. Why is EQ/EI important to you?

He stresses that his story is a personal explanation about how he aims to live a balanced life. He emphasises that he’s not offering definitive answers.

What’s Your EQ/IQ Story?

Some see an IQ score as the definitive indicator of how successful a person will be in life. The higher your IQ, the greater your likely success. Many fans of EQ feel that emotional intelligence holds the key to achievement.

We all have an IQ score. We also have a level of emotional intelligence. How well do we understand how the two relate?

I hope this series will help you think about the connection between your IQ and EQ and how it affects how you live. You may want to answer one or more of the 5 questions. Feel free to leave your comments in the comment box below, or email me, using the contact form.

Download the entire series in pdf format now.

I will post the series in 7 additional articles.

More Insights From Ray Hobby

Is EQ Old or New?
Is EQ Old or New?, Part 2

Tune up your EQ Tip:

Cultivate your self awareness to understand the relationship between IQ and EQ, factors which people often falsely present as opposites.

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“A fanatic is someone who won’t change his mind and can’t change the subject”

Quotation by Winston Churchill.

In the fifth article in this Thriving on Change series I served you the first course of a banquet of fine food for the mind from Ralph Marston.

Grab your seat and tuck in to the second course. The quotations are in bold and my notes are in italics.

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“The world can trick you into thinking that there’s only one road to your destination. In truth, there are infinite ways to get where you wish to go.”

Open your mind and heart. Stir your creative juices.

“There’s nothing that says you have to succeed in the same way as someone else. In fact, there’s nothing that says you must define success in the same way as someone else.”

This is why it is so important to obey the ancient injunction Know Thyself.
Use your self-knowledge to define success in your own special way

“You are truly one of a kind, with your own unique passions and purposes. And you’re fully capable of traveling your own route to the fulfillment of your dreams.”

Your self awareness is your launching pad to greater self-confidence.

“Don’t be stopped just because the road that everyone else uses has been closed. Find your own path, and if that path is blocked find another, and you will surely reach whatever destination you choose.”

A self aware person backs his/her own judgement (including feelings).
S/he knows how to leverage creative imagination to achieve amazing results.

I hope you enjoyed this fine meal as much as I did. Thanks, once more, Tony Walcott from Barbados, for laying the table with this sumptuous meal of Ralph Marston quotations.

More Resources

Use your emotional intelligence to become more creative. Read these Tune up your EQ articles.

An Intruiging Way To Create Reality - how Priscilla Palmer initiated the Personal Development List.

Why Norma Vincent Peale Would Have Been Amazed By EQ - how and why emotional intelligence is more powerful than positive thinking.

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“Transformation is a funny thing, we become radically different, through a long process of changing ourselves from the inside out. Even though it looks like today you saw somebody and they look completely different tomorrow, that’s rarely what transformation is about.”

Galba Bright in a radio interview with Andrea Williams-Green, January 2006

The Inspiration Academy’s quick fix of the latest CDs, DVDs, books and mp3s look TOO ENTICING to ignore. You can become a brand new you without too much effort. All it takes is some cash and some of your time. You can have your cake and eat it.

But will the Inspiration Academy give you long lasting results that will “stick”? I’m not so sure.

I do know that if you follow these 4 little known steps you’ll achieve a positive transformation. Can I walk you through them?

1. Manage your emotions and transform yourself

Have you ever embarked on a personal transformation for purely logical reasons?

Even if you did, it’s unlikely that you’ll sustain yourself on your journey unless you have a deep emotional investment in your goal or outcome.

That’s why your EQ, your ability to consciously integrate how you think, feel and act, is such a powerful transformational tool.

2. Accept that personal transformation is a discontinuous process.

Once you make the commitment to transform yourself, many of the final results and outcomes will be beyond your control. When you transform yourself, you transform your relationships with others, for example, you may lose or gain friends, associates etc.

Sometimes your transformation brings a trailor load of changes all at once, like the proverbial queue of London buses. At other times, your deep commitment to personal transformation incubates for years and finally manifests itself as a “surprise.”

3. Reflect on what you’ve learned to deepen your transformation

When you step back and reflect on your personal transformation, you begin to understand that your world is somewhat chaotic, and that you must commit to live in the moment, without too much concern about what happened in the past, or what tomorrow will bring.

You’ll realise that you are actually in control of very little. It’s your focus on what you consider to be under your control and most important to you that enables you to achieve a transformation.

When you accept that transformation is a process, not an event, you’re free to become more curious. You’ll quickly learn more about yourself and others and you’ll be able to make the most of what you’ve learned. Discontinuity can be scary and exciting.

4. Enjoy the journey, bumps and all

If you make a deep commitment to personal transformation, your journey will continue for the rest of your life. At the end you may have reached a very different place than what you originally intended when you started out your exciting, discomfiting, uncertain and ultimately fulfilling journey.

More Resources

Download Galba Bright’s 7 Laws Of Emotional Intelligence in pdf format

and get some solid, practical guidance along the way.

Learn 5 more simple, fundamental steps.

Aim to apply3 simple phrases to all aspects of your life.

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If you’ve not read my 7 Laws of Emotional Intelligence, or if you want a quick refresher, here are the links.

Law #1: I am responsible for my own feelings.
Law #2: I am responsible for my own behaviour
Law #3: I always have choices about how I respond to situations, events and people.
Law #4: No-one can make me upset, angry, happy etc.
Law #5: Identifying my choices empowers me to take fresh look at my behaviour.
Law # 6: Recognising my range of choices is an excellent way to start changing my behaviour for the better.
Law# 7: I can practice and learn new and more effective behaviours.

Download Galba Bright’s 7 Laws of emotional Intelligence.

An Exciting Opportunity

Your best friend gives you his gleaming bottle green Lamborghini to use for theweekend whilst he’s away on a business trip. He tosses you the keys and tells you that you can go anywhere, as long as you return the car with a full tank of gas.

Your imagination runs wild…your options are limitless. You mind conjures up that trip to Las Vegas that you promised yourself so long ago…maybe Paris isn’t so far away after all..your grey matter is running wild.You career through hundreds of fantastic imaginary journeys, yet, moment by moment, the weekend slips gently by. It’s late on Sunday.

You’re weary ..you’ve been nowhere.

Monday morning eases its way in. Mournful, dejected and confused, you give your friend back his keys. You didn’t even drive the car out of the garage.

What can you learn from this weekend of woe?

7 Laws of Emotional Intelligence

Nowaday’s there’s an abundance of information that you can use to transform yourself, but first, you must get involved.

Here are 5 ways I use my 7 Laws of Emotional Intelligence.

1.Display a graphical representation on my office wall as a constant reminder.

2.Review my behaviour against the Laws when I get off track

3.Actively appply the Laws in everything that I think, say and do

4. Encourage others to follow the Laws when I deliver Learning Programmes and coaching sessions or give radio interviews.

5. Muse about the feedback that I get from Tune up your EQ readers like Brigitt Hoo Sang Ellen Weber Lennox Deane MT of Mind Tweaks Ray Hobby,Tanika Williams, Jason and Yulia

Enough about me, what about you?

Do you use Galba Bright’s 7 Laws of Emotional Intelligence?

If you do, how do you use them?

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