Tune up your EQ

Happy New Year to you. I wish you health, happiness and prosperity in the coming year.

My online friend and colleague, Ed Brenegar is blessed with high levels of intrapersonal intelligence and he uses it to help others achieve their goals.

He’s produced a tool called The Four Questions Every Leader Must Ask. I used it throughout 2007. It helped me to radically improve my emotional intelligence. Ed kicked off 2008 by interviewing me about how his 4 Questions has impacted my life.

Read his interview and share your views with Ed. Could his tool help you make 2008 your best year ever?

I’d love to know what you think.

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Improve your emotional intelligence. Find simple tools that resonate with you. Use them repeatedly and achieve an amazing transformation.

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In the Top 8 Tools For Reflection series, 8 Tune up your EQ readers help you grasp the essence of EQ. In the final insight in the series, Tanika Williams, who told her story in the Me and My EQ series tells us that we must take charge of our transformation.

“Today I strive and I endeavour to always seek to take control of me. Transform me and seek to ignite others to see the need to change; because after all I can only change me.”

“No one will ever change unless such an individual sees, accepts and honours such a need by getting involved in one’s own transformation.”

2 Questions For You

1. Do you accept the challenge?
2. What’s next?

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“Transformation is a funny thing, we become radically different, through a long process of changing ourselves from the inside out. Even though it looks like today you saw somebody and they look completely different tomorrow, that’s rarely what transformation is about.”

Galba Bright in a radio interview with Andrea Williams-Green, January 2006

The Inspiration Academy’s quick fix of the latest CDs, DVDs, books and mp3s look TOO ENTICING to ignore. You can become a brand new you without too much effort. All it takes is some cash and some of your time. You can have your cake and eat it.

But will the Inspiration Academy give you long lasting results that will “stick”? I’m not so sure.

I do know that if you follow these 4 little known steps you’ll achieve a positive transformation. Can I walk you through them?

1. Manage your emotions and transform yourself

Have you ever embarked on a personal transformation for purely logical reasons?

Even if you did, it’s unlikely that you’ll sustain yourself on your journey unless you have a deep emotional investment in your goal or outcome.

That’s why your EQ, your ability to consciously integrate how you think, feel and act, is such a powerful transformational tool.

2. Accept that personal transformation is a discontinuous process.

Once you make the commitment to transform yourself, many of the final results and outcomes will be beyond your control. When you transform yourself, you transform your relationships with others, for example, you may lose or gain friends, associates etc.

Sometimes your transformation brings a trailor load of changes all at once, like the proverbial queue of London buses. At other times, your deep commitment to personal transformation incubates for years and finally manifests itself as a “surprise.”

3. Reflect on what you’ve learned to deepen your transformation

When you step back and reflect on your personal transformation, you begin to understand that your world is somewhat chaotic, and that you must commit to live in the moment, without too much concern about what happened in the past, or what tomorrow will bring.

You’ll realise that you are actually in control of very little. It’s your focus on what you consider to be under your control and most important to you that enables you to achieve a transformation.

When you accept that transformation is a process, not an event, you’re free to become more curious. You’ll quickly learn more about yourself and others and you’ll be able to make the most of what you’ve learned. Discontinuity can be scary and exciting.

4. Enjoy the journey, bumps and all

If you make a deep commitment to personal transformation, your journey will continue for the rest of your life. At the end you may have reached a very different place than what you originally intended when you started out your exciting, discomfiting, uncertain and ultimately fulfilling journey.

More Resources

Download Galba Bright’s 7 Laws Of Emotional Intelligence in pdf format

and get some solid, practical guidance along the way.

Learn 5 more simple, fundamental steps.

Aim to apply3 simple phrases to all aspects of your life.

I’d love to know your thoughts, feelings and experiences about your transformation(s).

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From the congested streets of Streatham in South London to the wandering goats and cows of Montego Bay is quite a journey. Robyn McMaster’s invitation to join Robert Hruzek’s My Home Town Meme is a lovely opportunity to reflect on 3 things that I love about Montego Bay, the tourist capital of Jamaica.

Animals At Large

I’ve lived about four miles outside Montego Bay for almost eleven years. I used to be awakened at abour 5:15 am by the daily “clump”, “clump” of cows’ hooves marching by my front door. This daily ritual was fascinating.

I learned that I never really get to “know” cows. I never had in depth conversations with them, yet I certainly learned to respect them.

The Parish Council has since put an end to the dairy procession, yet I still see a grizzled goatherd tending to his goats from time to time. I really enjoy being up front and personal with animals in a setting that isn’t as structured as a zoo.

How To Use Your Naturalistic Intelligence

A relative recently visited me and revealed, to my amazement, that I had a veritable bird sanctuary in my back garden. Sure, I’d seen, heard and enjoyed some woodpeckers and the occasional owl resting hauntingly on a telegraph pole outside our house, but the variety of hawks, nightingales, doctor birds and doves that he expertly pointed out to me was quite amazing.

A Look Out Of The Window

As Montego Bay is a tourist city, people mistakenly believe that those of us who are fortunate to live in the city spend all of our time on the beach. This isn’t my story, yet I’m blessed that Mother Nature’s fantastic gifts are always front, left and centre for even the hardest working Montego Bay resident.

Every morning, I look across the Caribbean sea and experence a wonderful tranquil scene. On Wednesday mornings, a cruise ship eases it’s way into the Bay. My gaze at the same view in the evening brings me a fantastic crimson screen as the fireball red sun sets gently over Negril in the western part of the island. I often sit on the balcony, peruse the view and write my journal.

Building Out Montego Bay

The cows are no longer around because Montego Bay is a growing, developing city, although the downtown area is still congested and needs serious planning. The city now boasts major highways and new hotels stretch throughout the north coast of the island.

In essence, my three favourite things about MOntego Bay are Mother Natures’ blessings of the animal kingdom, beautiful and inspiring scenery and human efforts to improve the physical environment.

Thanks for indulging my off topic reflection. I dedicate this article to the memory of my good friend and visionary Jamaican urban planner, the late Arlene Dixon. Arlene played a major role in inspiring me to make the life-changing decision to move from Streatham to Montego Bay.

Her spirit of humour and her razor sharp thinking lives on.

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In the Top 8 Tools For Reflection series, 8 Tune up your EQ readers help you grasp the essence of EQ.

Manchild, from the When Least Expected Blog explains why you must take personal responsibility for your life.

A Question For You

1. How do you feel about Manchild’s words?

Galba Bright’s 7 Laws of Emotional Intelligence
My 7 Laws of Emotional Intelligence aim to clear away the EQ clutter of books, tapes, CDs and DVDs, so you can focus on the bottom line of exactly what you need to do to live an emotionallly intelligent life.

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